How To Survive A Trip To The Beach

How To Survive A Trip To The Beach

(post dday)

Its summertime!! time for swimming, and sandcastles and lots of fun at the beach!  

here are 3 easy steps to make sure your trip to the beach goes as smoothly as it can...

Step 1

get ready for beach

Step 2

leave for beach

Step 3

Go home after arriving and seeing all the half naked woman prancing around. Rethink your life and if this crap is worth it. 

okay I am joking. Being married to a sex addict complicates every thing in your life. Including the beach. Here are 35 steps on how to actually survive a trip to the beach with your addict husband...

Step 1

put on your most comfortable swimsuit.

Step 2

 Look in the mirror while saying positive affirmations. 

I am beautiful.

My husband is crazy for ever wanting someone other than me. 

I am a rockstar.

I am enough. 

Step 3

let your sponsor know where you are going (or a friend who is aware of your situation)

Step 4

Pray

Step 5

hop in your car and mentally brace yourself for the onslaught of butts, stomachs and cleavage you are about to see. 

Step 6

breathe deep

Step 7

mentally swear at your husband and call him names for doing this to you

Step 8

leave first beach/pool when you see there is a high school graduation party and a million girls in bikinis

Step 9

tell your crying child that we will go to the beach just not that one because its broken.

Step 10

repeat steps 4-7 while texting your sponsor/friend for support.

Step 11

get to 2nd beach. decide you just can't do it so you sit in the car and cry while your hubby takes your child to the beach. 

Step 12

realize how sad you will be if you don't get to see your child's face when they play in the water and build sandcastles. 

Step 13

mentally swear at your husband again while you run to catch up to them

Step 14

get to the beach....watch your husbands eyes wander to the woman in a bikini and make a mental note to divorce the jerk. 

Step 15

see the delight on your child's face at being at the beach!

 take note of how the water flows around your body

 embrace the way the water makes you feel, so light and calm. 

Step 16

give your husband daggar eyes for looking at the other lady who shows up in a bikini

Step 17

Remind yourself why you are there... to be with your child and to make their day. 

Step 18

try not to mentally call the woman wearing make up and bikinis names for dressing that way. 

remember they are God's children too. 

Think about what lack of emotional connections has led them to make such poor choices

genuinely feel bad for them and how sad their life is that they are seeking attention in the wrong areas.

Step 19

stay as long as you want. don't let your husbands inability to function in public make you leave sooner than you want. 

if he is uncomfortable he can sit in the car and think about the choices he has made that has led him here. 

Step 20

make a mental note to research contacts or glasses your husband can wear that makes everyone look like distorted monsters and not the naked woman that they are. 

Step 21

release your anger towards your husband. 

throw sandballs (like a snowball but dirty and hard) at him. 

keep throwing them at him and add some shells for added flair until you feel better

(repeat as necessary)

Step 22

write in the sand all words that bring you sadness.

watch them wash away

embrace the symbolism and let it all wash away

Step 23

play with your child some more, embrace the happy moments. 

Step 24

leave the beach feeling awesome

 you just did the hardest thing a woman in your position could do

and you rocked it. 

Step 25

let it ALL out on your drive home. 

tell your sweet hubby how you felt and how it affected you.

Step 26

ask your sweet hubby to share with you what was on his mind and how he worked through it

Step 27

listen to him lie and say it was great

Step 28

call him out on that lie

Step 29

drag the truth out of him and help him realize his emotions and feelings

Step 30

help hubby come up with a better way to deal with his emotions and feelings

Step 31

report to your sponsor/friend how you did and talk through the hard spots

Step 32

say a prayer of thanks that the 2nd beach wasn't as busy

Step 33

rethink your summer plans of spending all day at the beach

Step 34

remember to not let your husbands addiction ruin your summer and ability to have fun

Step 35

plan another trip to the beach... but don't invite hubby this time 

:)